FOLLOW YOUR MIND not YOUR HEART

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They say "FOLLOW YOUR HEART", because your

heart knows things your mind can't explain.

For me, never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions because the purpose of the mind is to protect your heart.  Or maybe we can say "FOLLOW YOUR MIND not YOUR HEART".  Because your HEART gets a vote, but your mind gets the VETO POWER!

Now, share me your thoughts.

  

MONTH OF LOVE is HERE AGAIN

Peak Time is here again.  We all know that when love month is here it means peak time. We think of a gift to give with your love ones, friends and families.  Not only cards, roses, and chocolates but sharing the true meaning of LOVE.

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TRUE LOVE WAITS.  Do you believe that true love can wait regardless distance and time?  The right time will come to those who believe and have faith.  And have patience to wait for the person to come.  

We all know that there is NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP but there is a COMPATIBLE PARTNERSHIP that goes along with it.  Finding the right person is very hard especially if you set standards.  But is is BEST to be the right person for the one you love and start from here to be a compatible partner.

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For me I am not rushing things now.  Just to make this clearer, I came from a married relationship but it doesn't work at all.  My relationship fails not because he is not the right person, it is because we expected too much from our relationship.  And being separated for almost 8 years now, we decided on our own.

Now I am more dependent on what God wants me to do.  You may call it waiting, that every time I wait..I pray.  God knows best and I know somehow he is preparing someone to be called my COMPATIBLE PARTNER in life.

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HAPPY VALENTINES DAY

~Love isn't something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can’t touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can’t find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don’t forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.~ 

LOVE BLURS YOUR VISION

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Why does LOVE BLURS your VISION?  Is it  just like with the famous quotes we usually hear that "LOVE IS BLIND"?

Try to love somebody that you never met.  Try to fall with someone whose face you haven't seen.  Try kissing for someone whose lips you've never touched. Or hold his/her hands whose fingers you could imagine as yours.  Try making love with someone whom reflections you've seen is so blur, you climb for such imagination that he/she is there beside you.  STUPIDITY isn't it?

Then if you broke up with that someone you've never seen at all...the wound still too deep to imagine. You get the hard time to recover from it.  

How do you move on and get up from the fall?  Well I am there now...I am madly, deeply in love with this guy I haven't seen for a long time.  Sounds crazy? Yes, it is.  I honestly dumb and stupid and I finally realize that I am amazingly having an affair with someone, with no conditions, with no repercussions, with no appearance to indulge with the PAIN I am suffering now. Is this a literal proof that LOVE IS TOTALLY BLIND?  Or am I just LOSING MY VISION here?

Is this the kind of thing you see if you sit in the darkness with open eyes and never thinking what the future brings?  Am I dreaming?  Please wake me up before I drowned in my own dilemma. ~sigh~

     

     

Run Away

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Running away doesn't mean you are weak.  Same as TRAVELLING.  People who loves to travel aren't running away from LIFE.

To RUN from LOVE doesn't means you don't love that person.  Just the opposite.

People who tends to break the molds, explore the real meaning of LIFE. We need to be alone just to understand what is going on.     

IDENTITY

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A quote from ENDER GAME (Orson Scott Card).  Very meaningful quote that I like to share it with you.

If you mimic someone's identity make sure to make it more realistic and much more believable.  Make a major characters more fully than minor one.  

Whilst someone take on an identity, they will start behaving someone like it.  As in "COPY-PASTE",  their mind and character are will adapt to the identity their trying to project.  

And start becoming it.

Setting a limit on what you are going to portray is the best solution to this.  But this is very dangerous.  As long as you are there you have the difficulty to go out.  If you have hard time to set yourself free then that is a big QUESTION.

HAZY RECKONING

When we love we always ask ourselves WHY ME?   Love is difficult to define, hard to understand. Yet, we like to be loved.  We always come back and be loved.

Even and after we fall, we tend to get hurt but we cannot resist love.  

If we want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him or her.  We carry everything in us, the will to forgive someone is until we want to.  Healing is a process as we speak.

Downing is not giving up.  Love lives on.  YOU LIVES ON!  The haziness will past by and YOU will live forever.

FEAR NOT

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Almost every book in the Bible has a "fear not" in it.  The enemy uses fear, but God would have us to have faith in Him.  Although Job was a righteous man and would not speak evil, he opens the door through thoughts of fear for the enemy to work in his life.   "For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.   I was not in safety, neither had I rest, neither was I quiet; yet trouble came" (Job 3:25-26).


In a relationship arguments, disagreement or hatred is part of LIFE as a couple. We don't need to quarrel on a small thing, but we need to speak out if we know we are on the right side.


We don't need to quarrel if we want a peaceful life.  Go out and be merry, if you have problems don't think of it as a problem but a CHALLENGE.


CHALLENGE to face life.  It is the life itself. It finds its way no matter what. Like the plants finds the way to grow up even in the most unproductive place like rocks.

Independent Self Trap

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If I have fallen into the Independent Self Trap I will imagine that I am totally separate and distinct from other people. I will have forgotten my interconnectedness and interdependence with others. 

Traditional logic programing tells us a thing cannot be itself and something else (A is not not A). 

This trap determines the kind of action that a person or organization takes when it fails to consider the people who will be deeply affected by it.

In relationships, sometimes one partner will act as if his or her actions had no effect on the other partner. For instance, one partner will spend money on something that prevents the family from buying things it needs. Or one or more of the partners will spend so much time in advancing their careers that relationships suffer in the family as a whole. Because we think of ourselves only as independent selves, one sometimes we do nothing, i.e., do not call or write a loved or friend for a few days when they are expecting it, and find out from their reactions that we are not as independent as we had thought. 

Source: STANFORD.EDU UNIVERSITY PSYCHOLOGY BOOK 

TRUST

Trust is important, but it is also dangerous. It is important because it allows us to form relationships with others and to depend on others—for love, for advice, for help with our plumbing, or what have you—especially when we know that no outside force compels them to give us such things. But trust also involves the risk that people we trust will not pull through for us; for, if there were some guarantee that they would pull through, then we would have no need to trust them. Thus, trust is also dangerous. What we risk while trusting is the loss of the things that we entrust to others, including our self-respect, perhaps, which can be shattered by the betrayal of our trust.

Holding Hands

When you hold my hands I feel safe.  It's like waking up and finding there's a war on.   Nothing's the way it used to be and it's difficult to get your balance.  That's why I held your hand.